Self-Acceptance vs. Personal Growth
Today I found that article on the internet, should be quite interesting for you:
How do you balance self-acceptance vs. the drive to grow and improve yourself? On the one hand, it’s a good idea to accept yourself for who you are… faults and all, right? But on the other hand, isn’t it also a good idea to set goals and aim for something even better than what you already experience now? How do you resolve this conflict?
April 18, 2006 at 2:49 pm
I have a question about this kicking negative thoughts and therefore kicking negative people out of your life. If you kick a negative person out of your life, but you have to share an office or workstation with that person because of your job, then how can you possibly just kick that person out when you spend so much time with them because of your job?
April 18, 2006 at 3:51 pm
yeah, I think thats difficult but not impossible.
You cannot kick that negative people completly out of your life, when you spend time with them because of your job but you can try to ignore that person in your mind. You do not have to communicate with them in a way that you are affected by their thoughts. I think it is possible to treat them on a more superficial way so that they do not affect your mind. In your case it seems to be only one person, so I think this should be really feasible.
April 24, 2006 at 11:11 pm
If a colleague’s negativity is expressed through their behaviour towards others, i.e., insults, backstabbing, constant complaints, etc., then remember that their attitude is *theirs*; you’re under no obligation to react to them or to take on anything they say. Nothing they say or do applies to you unless you choose it to. As mylse said, you sometimes can’t easily kick someone out of your life completely, but you never have to let yourself be influenced by them. Even if they’re your boss you always have the choice of finding another job.
If their negativity is expressed through poor performance, highlight that performance to your superiors, and if they don’t act on it, go to your superior’s superior. If you work in a team environment and someone isn’t pulling their weight, they’re letting the entire team down. Mind you, you have to be careful about how you raise the issue. Make it clear that it’s not a personal issue.
So mysle, what are your thoughts on the topic of Self-Acceptance vs. Personal Growth?